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Audi Filia (Hear, O Daughter)/Book 1 · Libro espiritual sobre el verso «Audi, filia, et vide»
Chapter 7AudiFilia.1.7

Capítulo 7. De la grande paz que Dios nuestro Señor da o los que varonilmente pelean contra este enemigo; y de lo mucho que conviene para lo vencer huir familiaridad de mujeres.

The Peace of the Victorious

God grants deep spiritual peace and consolation to those who persevere through the trials of the struggle for chastity.

These skirmishes in the war for chastity usually happen when the Lord allows them, to test His knights and see if they truly love Him and the chastity they're fighting for. And once they have been found faithful, He sends His almighty favor and commands our adversary not to hinder our peace or our secret conversation with Him. Then the person enjoys the fruit of that labor; it tastes good to them, and it's more meritorious for them.1

The Necessity of Holy Caution

To protect the gift of chastity, one must avoid familiarities and reject the pride of false security by remembering the falls of the saints.

It is also necessary—and crucially so—for the protection of chastity that familiar conversation between women and men be avoided, no matter how virtuous they are or how closely related. For the ugly and unexpected falls that have happened in the world over this should be a perpetual warning of our weakness, and a hard lesson learned from others' ruin—so that we free ourselves from any false security our pride would try to promise us, claiming that we who are weak will pass through unhurt in what the strong, the wise, and, what matters more, the greatest saints were so gravely wounded.2 Who will put their trust in kinship, reading of Amnon's shameful act with his sister Tamar—and of many other cases as ugly, and worse, that have happened in the world to people this bestial passion of the flesh has blinded? And who will trust in their own holiness or someone else's, seeing the holy King and Prophet David—a man after God's own heart—so blindly cast down into many ugly sins by merely looking at a woman? And who will not tremble at their own weakness, hearing of King Solomon's holiness and wisdom in his youth, and of his ugly falls against chastity—which corrupted his heart in old age until he set up a host of idols and worshiped them, just as the women he loved did and wanted him to do? Let no one deceive themselves in this, or trust in past or present chastity, even if they feel their soul is as strong and hard as stone against this vice; for the experienced Jerome spoke a great truth: "Lust tames even iron souls."3 And Saint Augustine refused to live with his sister, saying: "Those who keep company with my sister are not my sisters."4 And all the saints have walked this path of careful reserve, and we ought to follow them if we don't want to go astray.5

The Vigilance of the Bride

The maiden of Christ must maintain constant vigilance to preserve her virginity, fearing the loss of her crown more than she relies on the possibility of penance.

Therefore, maiden of Christ, don't be careless in this; but hear and keep what St. Bernard says: "True virgins fear in all things, even in what seems safe." Those who don't do this will soon find themselves as miserably fallen as they were first miserably deceived by a false sense of security. And although one may obtain forgiveness for sin through penance, the crown of lost virginity cannot be recovered. St. Jerome says, "It is a shameful thing for a maiden who looked for a crown to have to ask pardon for having lost it." It would be like a King having a beloved daughter, carefully raised to be married in a way that suited her dignity, only for her to tell him when the time came that she needed his pardon because she was no longer fit to marry, having wickedly lost her virginity.6 "The remedies of penance," says St. Jerome, "are remedies for the wretched," for there is no greater misfortune or misery than to commit mortal sin, which requires penance as a remedy. Therefore, you must work with all vigilance to be loyal to the One who chose you and keep what you promised, so that you don't learn by experience what is written: "Know and see how evil and bitter a thing it is to have forsaken the Lord your God, and that his fear has not been in you." Instead, may you enjoy the fruit and name of a chaste spouse, and the crown prepared for such as these.

Read the original Latin

Todas estas escaramuzas se suelen pasar en esta guerra de la castidad, cuando el Señor lo permite para probar sus caballeros, si de verdad le aman a Él y a la castidad por quien pelean. Y después de hallados fieles, envía su omnipotente favor, y manda a nuestro adversario que no nos impida nuestra paz ni nuestra secreta habla con Él. Y goza el hombre entonces de lo trabajado, y sábele bien y esle más meritorio.

Es también menester, y muy mucho, para guarda de la castidad, que se evite la conversación familiar de mujeres con hombres, por buenos o parientes que sean. Porque las feas y no pensadas caídas que en el mundo han acaecido acerca de aquesto, nos deben ser un perpetuo amonestador de nuestra flaqueza, y un escarmiento en ajena cabeza, con el cual nos desengañemos de cualquiera falsa seguridad que nuestra soberbia nos quisiere prometer, diciendo que pasaremos sin herida nosotros flacos, en lo que tan fuertes, tan sabios y, lo que más es, tan grandes santos fueron muy gravemente heridos. ¿Quién se fiará de parentesco, leyendo la torpeza de Amnón con su hermana Thamar; con otras muchas tan feas, y más, que en el mundo han acaecido a personas que las ha cegado esta bestial pasión de la carne? ¿Y quién se fiará de santidad suya o ajena, viendo a Santo Rey y Profeta David, que fue varón conforme al corazón de Dios, ser tan ciegamente derribado en muchos y feos pecados por sólo mirar a una mujer? ¿Y quién no temblará de su flaqueza oyendo la santidad y sabiduría del rey Salomón, siendo mozo, y sus feas caídas contra la castidad, que le malearon el corazón a la vejez, hasta poner muchedumbre de ídolos y adorarlos, como lo hacían y querían las mujeres que amaba? Ninguno en esto se engañe, ni se fíe de castidad pasada o presente, aunque sienta su ánima muy fuerte, y dura contra este vicio como una piedra; porque gran verdad dijo el experimentado Jerónimo, que: «Animas de hierro, la lujuria las doma.» Y San Agustín no quiso morar con su hermana, diciendo: «Las que conversan con mi hermana no son mis hermanas.» Y por este camino de recatamiento han caminado todos los santos, a los cuales debemos seguir si queremos no errar.

Por tanto, doncella de Cristo, no seáis en esto descuidada; mas oíd y cumplid lo que San Bernardo dice: «Que las vírgenes que verdaderamente son vírgenes, en todas las cosas temen, aun en las seguras.» Y las que así no lo hacen, presto se verán tan miserablemente caídas, cuanto primero estaban con falsa seguridad miserablemente engañadas. Y aunque por la penitencia se alcance el perdón del pecado, no se alcanza la corona de la virginidad perdida, y «cosa fea es, dice San Jerónimo, que la doncella que esperaba corona pida perdón de haberla perdido», como lo sería si tuviese el Rey una hija muy amada, y guardada para la casar conforme a su dignidad, y cuando el tiempo de ello viniese, le dijese la hija que le pedía perdón de no estar para casarse, por haber perdido malamente su virginidad. «Los remedios de la penitencia, dice San Jerónimo, remedios de desdichados son», pues que ninguna desdicha o miseria hay mayor que hacer pecado mortal, para cuyo remedio es menester la penitencia. Y por tanto, debéis trabajar con toda vigilancia por ser leal al que os escogió, y guardar lo que prometisteis, porque no probéis por experiencia lo que está escrito: Conoce y ve cuan mala y amarga cosa es haber dejado al Señor Dios tuyo, y no haber estado su temor en ti; mas gocéis del fruto y nombre de casta esposa, y de la corona que a tales está aparejada.

Scripture echoes

  1. Jer.2.19Your own wickedness will discipline you, and your apostasies will rebuke you. Know and see that it is evil and bitter — you have forsaken the LORD your God, and my fear is not in you, declares the LORD of Hosts.

Notes

  1. 1Older Spanish clitic forms sábele and esle (sabe + le; es + le): the labor's fruit is sweet to the person and more meritorious for him. 'Sábele bien' is sensory/affective ('tastes good'), not cognitive knowledge.
  2. 2«escarmiento en ajena cabeza» is the Spanish proverb for learning by another's hard lesson/ruin; rendered as 'a hard lesson learned from others' ruin'.
  3. 3«ánima» rendered as soul per durable theological lexicon; Jerome's maxim is kept as a marked quotation.
  4. 4Augustine's saying warns that the women who associate with his sister are not themselves his sisters—so cohabitation would expose him to non-familial familiar conversation.
  5. 5«recatamiento» = cautious modesty/reserve in conduct; rendered as 'careful reserve' to keep both moral caution and restrained familiarity.
  6. 6The source distinguishes forgiveness of the sin (perdón del pecado) through penance from the unrecovered virginity crown (corona de la virginidad perdida)—a traditional ascetical claim about the singular gift of virginity, not a denial of mercy.

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