De litterali et morali earum instruccione et io de castitate.
The Purpose of Learning for Noble Girls
Noble girls should be grounded in letters and moral formation under parental care, so that learning guards them against idleness, fleshly temptation, and worldly vanity.
Meanwhile, while noble girls are kept under their parents' watchful care in the manner already described, it is fitting that they be grounded in learning and trained in good character. It is right that they be instructed in letters, so that by giving themselves earnestly and regularly to this worthy pursuit, they steer clear of harmful thoughts and turn away from the pleasures of the flesh and from vanity.1 As John Chrysostom says in his second book on Matthew: 'A woman sitting in quiet seclusion easily slips into fleshly sin, especially because this vice is born readily from idleness and leisure.'2 This is why Jerome writes to Aletta about the upbringing of her daughter: 'Let your daughter Paula be ignorant of the songs of the world and have no understanding of what is shameful.'34 Furthermore, let her young tongue be steeped in the sweetness of the psalms. Let the wanton company of boys be kept far away. . .
Playful Letters and the Joy of Learning
Girls should learn through tactile letters and the companionship of peers, encouraged by praise rather than reproach, so that even play becomes instruction.
Let letters of boxwood or ivory be made for her. . . And let her play with them, so that even her play may be a kind of learning. . . Let her also have companions in learning whom she may envy, and whose praises may sting her into effort. She is not to be scolded if she is slower, but her talent is to be roused by praise, so that she may both rejoice when she has done well and grieve when she has fallen short.
Loving Sacred Books Above Worldly Splendor
The maiden should prize sacred books above jewels and silk, finding in accurate Scripture what gold illumination cannot give, following the examples of Marcella and Eustochium.
. . In short, let the maiden love her sacred books more than jewels and silk — books in which what pleases is not the spotless illumination of gold or Babylonian parchment, but an accurate text that serves faith. These are the words of Jerome. Jerome says the same thing to the virgin Eustochium: 'Read often, and learn as much as you can.' When you hold a book, let sleep creep over you, and let the holy page catch your falling face. On this same point, Jerome also commends Marcella for her love of and zeal for the Scriptures, in his prologue to the epistle to the Galatians: 'I know,' he says, 'holy Marcella, the ardor and faith that the flame always burning in your heart has — how it makes you surpass your human nature, forget what belongs to mere womanhood, and, with the drum of the divine volumes resounding, cross the Red Sea of this present age.' Certainly, when I was at Rome, she never saw me in such a hurry that she didn't ask me something about the Scriptures.
Reading, Prayer, and Work as a Threefold Guard
To prevent weariness from breaking off study, reading must be joined to prayer and work, so that the soul is shielded from temptation and kept in the service of the Lord.
Jerome says this. But so that an honorable and useful occupation is not suddenly broken off or interrupted by creeping weariness, two other things must be joined to reading, namely: prayer and work. Hence, regarding prayer to be joined to reading, Jerome says to Salvinia in the letter on the death of Nebridius: 'Let divine reading always be in your hands, and prayers so frequent that all the arrows of temptation, by which youth is accustomed to be struck, may be repelled by a shield of this kind.' Concerning work also, he says to the virgin Demetrias: 'In desires, as we read, everyone is idle. Nor for that reason should you stop working, because with God's favor you lack nothing; but for that reason you must labor at everything, so that through the occasion of work you think of nothing else except what pertains to the service of the Lord. . .
The Dignity of Manual Labor and Daily Order
Manual work is precious in Christ's eyes, protects against the devil's snares, and follows the example of Egyptian monasteries and Augustus's household, structuring the day with hymns, reading, and prayer.
And if you were to distribute all your wealth among the poor, nothing will be more precious in Christ's eyes than what you have made with your own hands, whether for your own use or as an example to other virgins.' The same author also says to a rustic monk, because it is just as necessary for women as it is for men: 'Do some work, so that the devil always finds you occupied.' . . Indeed, the Egyptian monasteries follow this practice: they admit no one without work and labor — not so much for the sake of necessary sustenance as for the salvation of the soul. These are Jerome's words. But Suetonius too, in the second book of his Twelve Caesars, says that Augustus Caesar 'instructed his daughter and granddaughters in such a way that he accustomed them even to wool-working, and he forbade them to say or do anything except openly and what could be recorded in the daily or long-term chronicles.' On account of the three things just mentioned, in which the honorable occupation of girls consists, Jerome says to Aletha about the training of her daughter: 'In the morning,' he says, 'let her sing hymns.'
Domestic Skills and Early Moral Formation
Girls should learn spinning and weaving for modest clothing, be formed in good morals from tender age, and be shielded from flattery and luxury that corrupt tongue and character.
. . Let reading follow prayer, and prayer follow reading. . . Let her learn. . . and to hold the distaff. . . to spin the spindle, to draw the warp-threads with the thumb, and let her prepare such garments with which the cold is kept off — not with which clothed bodies are exposed. Moreover, what was said above about boys — the same must also be done in the case of girls while they are of tender age, namely: so that they may be instructed in good morals and customs. whence Jerome, where he says above: 'Beware,' he says, 'lest you become accustomed to learning the halved words of a daughter from the foolish flatteries of women, nor let her learn to play in gold or purple — of which the one harms the tongue, the other harms morals. Let her not learn in tender age what must afterwards be unlearned by her.
Four Pillars of Formation: Chastity, Humility, Discretion, Maturity
The maiden should be formed in four virtues—chastity, humility, discretion in speech, and mature bearing—with chastity singled out as the guardian of all honorable conduct in women.
. . and let her be lovable to everyone, and let the whole family relationship rejoice that a rose has been born from itself.' It is especially fitting, then, to instruct and shape them in four areas: modesty, or chastity; humility; discretion in speech; and maturity of manners, or bearing. In chastity — because, as Cyprian says in his book On the Twelve Abuses of the Age: 'Just as prudence promotes and guards all good character in men, so chastity nourishes, fosters, and preserves all honorable conduct in women.'5 Hence Origen, in his book On the Singularity of Clerics: 'Chastity,' he says, 'is a fortification.'6 .
Chastity Exalted: The Soul's Victory and Angelic Life
Chastity is praised as the conquest of disgrace, the soul's victory over the body's undoing, the abolition of scandals, and the haven of what is honorable.
. It is the conquest of disgrace through holiness. . . It is the frailty of lust. . . It is the soul's victory, the body's undoing — an abundance of glories, a captivity to crimes. . . the abolition of scandals. . . Peace. . .
The Nature of Chastity and Its Enemies
Chastity is the summit of purity and the condition of an angelic nature, and young women must be guarded against its chief enemies: excessive bodily pleasure and bad company.
[Chastity is] the conquest of restless desires, the summit of purity, the prison of lust, the haven of what is honorable. . . 'The life of the spirit, the death of the flesh, the condition of an angelic nature, the end of human existence.' So then, if chastity is to be carefully preserved in young women, they must be guarded against everything that is its enemy — most of all against excessive bodily pleasure and against bad company. I mean, excessive pleasure — in food and drink, in sleep, in bathing, and in adornment. For as Jerome says against Jovinian, book two: 'Since even when we are far removed from these things we are often caught by the enticements of nature and compelled to desire what we do not have the means to enjoy — how much more, if we imagine ourselves free while surrounded by the snares of pleasure! Our senses dwell on what they see, hear, taste, touch, and smell.' .
The Danger of Pleasure: Against Jovinian and the Testimony of the Apostle
It is a sham to claim chastity while indulging in pleasures, for pleasure enjoyed abundantly is against nature, and she who lives in pleasure is dead while she lives.
. So it is a sham, practiced by some people, to claim they keep their faith and chastity and integrity of mind intact while still indulging in pleasures — since getting abundant pleasure without actually enjoying it is against nature. As the Apostle says: 'She who lives in pleasure is dead while she lives.'✦ That is from Jerome. Blessed Bernard puts it this way too: 'Chastity is in danger when there are pleasures.' Ovid says something similar in the second book of the Art of Love:
Prosperity's Peril: The Heart Open to Temptation
Favorable circumstances inflame the mind, and while hearts rejoice without grief they lie open to love's craft; even Ovid notes that lust rarely enters mournful beds.
Minds tend to run wild in favorable circumstances, and it is not easy to bear prosperity with an even mind. The same author in Book I: The mind will be ready to be grasped when it is most joyful in all things, and the crop will flourish in rich soil. While hearts rejoice and are not worn away by grief, they themselves lie open and alluring — then love steals in by its own craft.7 On the contrary, the same author says in the book on Pontus: The ruinous lust of Venus does not often make its way into sad and mournful beds.8
Food and Drink as Seedbeds of Lust
Meat, wine, and fullness of belly are seedbeds of lust; amid feasts chastity is hard to preserve, and wine prepares the mind for desire, while without grain and wine desire grows cold.
Therefore, on the pleasure of food and drink, the same Jerome says, as above: 'The eating of meat and the drinking of wine, and the fullness of the belly, is a seedbed of lust.'9 The same author also writes in a letter to a mother and daughter: 'Amid feasts, chastity is difficult to preserve.' Hence also Ovid, in the second book of his Remedies:10 Wines prepare the mind for sexual desire. Solomon also says the same in Proverbs: 'Wine is a thing of dissipation.'11 Terence, on the other hand, says in The Eunuch: Without grain and wine, desire grows cold.
Abstinence, Fasting, and the Measured Discipline of the Body
Jerome urges abstinence so that the stomach suffers rather than chastity waver, but counsels moderation in fasting for the young, so that the body is not broken down before the spiritual life is established.
Because of this, urging abstinence, Jerome writes to Salvinia: 'It is better for your stomach than your mind to suffer, to rule the body than to serve it, to waver in your steps than in your chastity.' The same author also says to the virgin Demetrias that 'by heavenly dew and the cold of fasts, girlish heat is extinguished, and the conversation of angels is commanded to the human body.'12 And so he writes to Aletha about the instruction of her daughter: 'Let her eat in such a way that she always hungers, and that immediately after food she can pray and read.' Lest this kind of abstinence exceed its measure and the body be weakened in its strength, Jerome adds in the same place: 'Long and immoderate fasts are displeasing to me, especially in tender years.' . . For I learned from experience that a little donkey, once it has slipped on the road, goes looking for side paths. . . Let this, then, be the fasting commanded for the long haul: a steady supply of strength for a longer journey, so that you do not collapse from exhaustion at the halfway point by having sprinted from the very first stop. Hence the same writer also says to Demetrias: 'We by no means command you immoderate fasts or an extreme abstinence from food, by which bodies are immediately broken down, dried out, and begin to fall sick before they have even laid the foundations of a holy way of life. . . This is how you ought to fast: not so that you are gasping and can barely breathe, so that your companions have to carry you by hand or drag you along — but so that, with bodily appetite broken, you do nothing less than usual in your reading, in the psalms, or in the night vigils. Furthermore, regarding the sleepiness to be avoided, blessed Bernard says in his letter to the Carthusians: 'Sleep is a suspect thing, and in large measure it is like drunkenness. .
Vigilance Over Sleep, Bathing, and Bodily Indulgence
Sleep must not be the burial of the spirit or nourishment to vices, but watchfulness; Cato and Bernard alike warn that prolonged rest feeds sin.
. So be careful: your sleep should not be the rest of a weary body, but the burial of someone suffocated — not restoration, but the extinction of your spirit. And from the same source, Cato in his book on morals: Be watchful all the more, and do not give yourself over to sleep. For prolonged rest supplies nourishment to vices.
The Night Vigil and the Mortification of the Body
The maiden should rise at night for prayer, fast so that emptiness rather than fullness stirs her to vigil, and avoid the softness of baths and beds that rekindle the fires of youth.
For this reason, too, Jerome says to Aletha: 'Your daughter should rise at night for prayers, sing hymns in the morning, and let reading accompany prayer.' . . Let it follow.' The same writer to Eustochium: 'For you, rising at night to prayer, let it be emptiness that stirs you, not the belching of a full stomach.' On the subject of bodily bathing and the softness of the bed, the same Jerome says to Salvinia: 'Let the softness of feathers not pamper youthful limbs, and let the heat of baths not inflame the fresh blood of youth.' The same to Aletha: 'Baths are entirely displeasing to me in a grown virgin — a woman who ought to blush at herself and cannot bear to see herself naked.' If, then, she mortifies her body with fasts and vigils and brings it back into servitude, why on the other hand does she rouse the slumbering fire with the warm applications of baths?'
Read the original Latin
Interim autem, dum puelle nobiles predicto modo parentum diligencia conseruantur, congruum est, ut litteris imbuantur et moribus instruantur. litteris quidem eas imbui conuenit, ut huic honeste occupacioni frequenter intente noxias cogitaciones euitent et carnis uoluptates atque vanitates declinent. ut enim dicit iohannes crisostomus super matheum libro iio, ‘mulier in quiete sedens inclusa facile in peccatum carnis labitur, maxime quia uicium hoc ex uacacione et ocio facile nascitur.’ Ideo dicit Jeronimus ad aletham de institutione filie: ‘Filia tua paula mundi cantica ignoret, turpia non intelligat. Adhuc tenera lingua psalmis dulcibus imbuatur. Procul sit etas lasciua puerorum . . .
Fiant ei littere buxee uel eburnee . . . et ludat in eis, ut etiam ludus eius erudicio sit . . . Habeat et in discendo socias quibus inuideat, quarum laudibus mordeatur. Nec est obiurganda, si tardior sit, sed laudibus excitandum ingenium, ut et uicisse se gaudeat et victam doleat .
. . Denique pro gemmis et serico tua diuinos codices amet uirgo, quibus non auri aut pellis babilonie immaculata pictura, sed ad fidem placeat emendata distinctio.’ Hec Jeronimus. Hinc etiam idem ad eustochium uirginem, ‘Crebrius,’ inquit, ‘lege, quam plurima disce. Tenenti te codicem sompnus obrepat et cadentem faciem pagina sancta suscipiat.’ Super hoc etiam marcellam conmendat de scripturarum amore ac studio super epistolam ad galathas in prologo: ‘Scio,’ inquit, ‘sancte marcelle ardorem et fidem quam semper habeat flammam in pectore sexum superare, hominis obliuisci et diuinorum uoluminum tympano concrepante rubrum huius seculi pelagus transfretare. Certe cum rome essem, nunquam tam festina me uidit, ut non de scripturis aliquid interrogaret.’
Hec ieronimus. Ne autem subrepente fastidio interrumpatur uel abrumpatur honesta et utilis occupacio, lectioni iungenda sunt et alia duo, sc. oracio et operacio. unde de oracione iungenda lectioni dicit ieronimus ad saluiniam in epistola de morte nebridij: ‘Semper in manibus tuis diuina sit lectio et tam crebre oraciones, ut temptacionum omnes sagitte quibus adolescencia percuti solet huiuscemodi clipeo repellantur.’ De operacione quoque dicit idem ad demetriadem uirginem: ‘In desideriis, ut legimus, est omnis ociosus. Nec ideo tibi ab opere cessandum est, quia deo propicio nulla re indiges, sed ideo cum omnibus laborandum est, ut per occasionem operis nichil aliud cogites nisi quod ad domini pertinet seruitutem . . .
Et si omnem censum tuum in pauperes distribuas, nichil aput christum erit preciosius quam quod manibus tuis ipsa confeceris uel in usus proprios uel in exemplum uirginum ceterarum.’ Idem quoque dicit ad rusticum monachum, quod tam feminis quam uiris est necessarium: ‘Aliquid operis fac, ut semper te dyabolus occupatum inueniat . . . Siquidem et egypciorum monasteria tenent hunc morem, ut nullum absque opere et labore recipiant, non tam propter victus necessaria quam propter anime salutem.’ Hec Jeronimus. Sed et suetonius etiam in libro iio de XII cesaribus dicit quod et augustus cesar ‘filiam et neptes ita instituit, ut etiam lanificio assuefaceret ac loqui uel agere quicquam nisi palam et quod in diuturnos uel diurnos referretur conmentarios uetaret.’ Propter predicta tria in quibus consistit occupacio puellarum honesta dicit Jeronimus ad aletham de filia instituenda: ‘Mane,’ inquit, ‘hymnos decantet .
. . oracioni uero lectio ac leccioni succedat oracio . . . Discat . . .
et tenere colum . . . rotare fusum, stamina pollice ducere, taliaque paret uestimenta quibus frigus pellatur, non quibus uestita corpora nudentur.’ Porro quod dictum est supra de pueris, idem quoque agendum est in etate tenera de puellis, uidel. ut instruantur in moribus et consuetudinibus bonis. unde ieronimus, ubi supra: ‘Caue,’ inquit, ‘ne ineptis feminarum blandiciis dimidiata filie uerba discere consuescas, nec in auro uel purpura ludere discat, quorum alterum lingue, alterum moribus officiat. Ne in tenero, quod postea ei dediscendum est, discat .
. . omnibusque sit amabilis et uniuersa propinquitas rosam ex se natam esse gaudeat.’ Precipue uero in iiii eas instruere conuenit et informare, sc. in pudicicia siue castitate et in humilitate et in taciturnitate et in morum siue gestuum maturitate. In castitate, quoniam, ut dicit cyprianus in libro de XII seculi abusionibus, ‘sicut omnes bonos mores procurat et custodit in uiris prudencia, sic et in feminis cunctos actus honestos nutrit et fouet atque custodit pudicicia.’ unde origenes in libro de singularitate clericorum: ‘Castitas,’ inquit, ‘est munimen . .
. sanctimonie, expugnacio infamie . . . infirmitas lasciuie . . . anime victoria, corporis preda, ubertas gloriarum, captiuitas criminum .
. . abolicio scandalorum . . . pax . . .
uirtutum, debellacio inquietancium bellorum, culmen puritatis, carcer libidinis, portus honestatis . . . uita spiritus, carnis interitus, status qualitatis angelice, finis humane substancie.’ ut ergo seruetur in puellis diligenter pudicicia, oportet, ut eis caueatur ab omnibus que pudicicie sunt inimica, maximeque a carnis delectacione superflua et a societate mala. A delectacione, inquam, superflua in cibo et potu et somno et balneo et ornatu. Nam, ut dicit Jeronimus contra iouinianum libro ii, ‘cum ab hiis etiam procul remoti sepe capiamur illecebris nature et cogamur ea quorum copiam non habemus concupiscere, quanto magis, si circumdati retibus uoluptatum esse nos liberos arbitramur, sensus noster illud cogitat quod uidet, audit, gustat, attrectat, odoratur . .
. Frustra ergo simulatur a quibusdam salua fide ac pudicicia et mentis integritate uoluptatibus uti, cum sit contra naturam copiis uoluptatum sine uoluptate perfrui. unde apostolus “que in deliciis,” inquit, “est uiuens mortua est.” ’ Hec Jeronimus. Sic enim dicit beatus bernardus, quod ‘castitas in deliciis periclitatur.’ Hinc etiam dicit ouidius in libro de arte iio:
Luxuriant animi rebus plerumque secundis, Nec facile est equa conmoda mente pati.
Idem in libro i:
Mens erit apta capi tunc cum letissima rerum, Et seges in pingui luxuriabit humo. Pectora dum gaudent, nec sunt attrita dolore, Ipsa patent blanda, tunc subit arte uenus.
Econtra uero dicit idem in libro de ponto:
Veneris dampnosa libido non solet in mestos sepe uenire thoros.
Itaque de uoluptate cibi et potus dicit idem ieronimus, ubi supra: ‘Esus carnium et potus uini atque saturitas uentris seminarium est libidinis.’ Idem quoque scribit in epistola ad matrem et filiam inter epulas difficile seruari pudiciciam. Hinc et ouidius in libro de remediis iio:
Vina parant animos ueneri.
Idem quoque dicit salomon in prouerb. xx: ‘luxuriosa res est vinum.’ Econtra uero dicit therencius in eunucho:
Sine cerere et bacho friget uenus.
Propter hoc exhortans ad abstinenciam scribit Jeronimus ad saluiniam: ‘Melius est stomachum quam mentem te dolere, imperare corpori quam seruire, gressus quam pudiciciam uacillare.’ Idem quoque dicit ad demetriadem uirginem, quod ‘celesti rore ac ieiuniorum frigore calor puellaris extinguitur et humano corpori angelorum conuersacio imperatur.’ Ideoque scribit ad aletam de institucione filie: ‘Sic comedat, ut semper esuriat et statim post cibum orare ac legere ualeat.’ ne tamen huiusmodi abstinencia modum excedat et debilitetur corpus uiribus, ibidem subdit Jeronimus: ‘Michi displicent in teneris etatibus maxime longa et immoderata ieiunia . . . nam experimento didici asellum in uia cum lapsus fuerit querere diuerticula . .
. Hoc igitur in perpetuum ieiunium preceptum sit, ut itineris longioris uires perpetes supparent, ne in prima mansione currendo in mediis corruatur.’ Hinc etiam idem dicit ad demetriadem: ‘Nequaquam immoderata imperamus tibi ieiunia et enormem ciborum abstinenciam quibus statim corpora franguntur desiccata et egrotare prius incipiunt quam sancte conuersacionis iacere fundamenta . . . Sic ieiunare debes, non ut palpites et respirare uix possis et comitum tuarum uel porteris manibus uel traharis, sed ut fracto corporis appetitu nec in lectione nec in psalmis nec in uigiliis solito quid minus facias.’ Porro de uitanda sompniculositate dicit beatus bernardus in epistola ad cartusienses: ‘suspecta res sompnus est et ex parte magna ebrietati similis est . .
. Caue ergo, ne sompnus tuus sit non requies corporis lassi, sed sepultura suffocati, non reparacio, sed extinctio spiritus tui.’ Hinc et cato in libro de moribus:
Plus uigila semper, nec sompno deditus esto. Nam diuturna quies uiciis alimenta ministrat.
Propter hoc eciam dicit Jeronimus ad aletham: ‘Filia tua nocte ad oraciones surgat, mane hymnos decantet et oracioni lectio . . . succedat.’ Idem ad eustochium: ‘Ad oracionem tibi nocte surgenti non digestio ructum faciat, sed inanitas.’ De corporis autem balneacione ac lecti mollicie dicit idem Jeronimus ad saluiniam: ‘Plumarum mollicies iuuenilia membra non foueat et balnearum calor nouum adolescencie sanguinem non incendat.’ Idem ad aletham: ‘Michi lauacra omnino displicent in adulta uirgine que se ipsam debet erubescere, nudamque videre non posse. Si enim ieiuniis ac uigiliis corpus suum macerat et in seruitutem redigit, Cur econtrario sopitum ignem suscitat balneorum fomentis?’
Scripture echoes
- ↩1Tim.5.6 — but the one who lives in self-indulgence is dead even while she lives.
Notes
- 1 ↩intente (token 10) is form-ambiguous; rendered as 'earnestly' to capture the sense of directed attention applied to the occupation.
- 2 ↩Quotation attributed to John Chrysostom on Matthew, book 2. Source span preserved as direct speech; final patristic citation verification deferred to tx-08.
- 3 ↩Quotation attributed to Jerome, Epistle to Aletta (likely Ep. 107, Ad Laetam de institutione filiae). Source span preserved as direct speech; final patristic citation verification deferred to tx-08.
- 4 ↩aletham (token 4) is a name form of uncertain normalization; treated as 'Aletta' per standard reference.
- 5 ↩The quotation attributed to Cyprian's De XII seculi abusionibus is a candidate patristic source; final verification deferred to tx-08.
- 6 ↩The quotation attributed to Origen's De singularitate clericorum is a candidate patristic source; final verification deferred to tx-08.
- 7 ↩Venus here likely carries a double sense — both 'love/desire' and the classical personification. The translation renders it as 'love' to preserve the moral-spiritual register, but the erotic undertone of the Latin is deliberate and contextually significant.
- 8 ↩Latin 'mestos' is likely a variant spelling of 'maestos' (mournful, sad); 'thoros' likely = 'toros' (beds, couches). The sense is that disordered desire does not tend to arise where grief and sorrow already dwell.
- 9 ↩The quoted Jerome passage is a patristic citation, not a direct biblical quotation; its status as an allusion remains unresolved pending Moses resolution.
- 10 ↩'iio' is an abbreviation for 'secondo' (second); rendered as 'second' for clarity.
- 11 ↩The verse number 'xx' is uncertain; the quotation 'luxuriosa res est vinum' is a candidate scriptural allusion to Proverbs, but the exact reference has not been resolved.
- 12 ↩angelorum conuersacio — 'the conversation of angels' likely means the manner of life angels lead, i.e., angelic purity and discipline, imposed as an ideal on the human body through fasting.
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