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CHAP. X. The Parson in his house.

A Household of Godly Order

The parson governs his house as a model for the parish, requiring his wife to train children in piety, heal the sick, and provide prudently, and raising his children in Christian virtue and charity.

The Parson is very precise in managing his house, making it a copy and model for his parish. He knows the temperament and pulse of everyone in his house, and accordingly either confronts their vices or encourages their virtues.1 His wife is either religious, or he is working night and day to lead her to it. Instead of worldly qualities, he requires only three things of her: first, that she raise her children and maids in the fear of God, with prayers, catechizing, and all religious duties. Second, that she cure and heal all wounds and sores with her own hands—a skill she either brought with her or he ensures she learns from some religious neighbor. Third, that she provide for her family so that they don't lack a decent living, and her husband isn't brought into debt.2 He first makes his children Christians, and then citizens: the one he owes to his heavenly country, the other to his earthly one, having no claim to either unless he does good to both.3 Therefore, having seasoned them with all piety—not only through words in praying and reading, but in actions like visiting other sick children, tending their wounds, and sending his charity by them to the poor, sometimes giving them a little money to do it themselves—they take delight in it and find favor with God, who weighs even children's actions (1 Kings).4 14.✦ 12, 13.✦

Guiding Children's Callings

The parson fits each child to a suitable calling, avoids empty trades, and prioritizes charity over hoarding for his children, trusting God's provision.

Afterwards he turns his care to fitting each of their dispositions to some calling—not sparing the eldest, but giving him the prerogative of his father's profession, which, fortunately for his other children, he is not able to do for them.5 Yet when he binds them as apprentices (if he thinks it fit to do so), he takes care not to put them into empty trades unworthy of the reverence due their father's calling—such as taverns for men, and lace-making for women—because those trades, for the most part, only serve the vices and vanities of the world, which he is to renounce and not to increase. Even so, he is resolved never to pass up a present good deed of charity in order to save for his children; rather, he assures himself that money lent to God is more securely placed for his children's advantage than if it were given to the Chamber of London.✦6 His two great stores for his children are good deeds and a good upbringing; if God gives him anything beyond those, and it isn't spent on them, he blesses God and lays it out as he sees reason.7

Daily Piety and Discipline

The parson ensures his servants are devout and teaches them truth, diligence, and cleanliness; his whole family becomes a school of religion with pious conversation, truthfulness, private prayer, and plain living.

His servants are all devout; and if it were not his duty to have them so, it would still be to his advantage—for no one is so well served as by devout servants, both because they do their work best, and because what they do is blessed and prospers.8 After religion, he teaches them that three things make a complete servant: truth, diligence, and neatness, or cleanliness. Those who can read are given time for it, and those who can't are taught; for everyone in his household is either a teacher or a learner, or both, so that his family is a school of religion, and they all consider teaching the ignorant to be the greatest act of charity. Even the walls aren't idle; something is written or painted there that may stir the reader to a pious thought—especially Psalm 101, which is set out on a fine plaque, as the rule for a family.9 And when they go out, his wife is the one who starts good conversation among her neighbors, his children among children, his servants among other servants; so that just as in the house of those skilled in music everyone is a musician, so in a preacher's house everyone is a preacher. He will not allow a lie or any equivocation in his house by any means, but considers it the art and secret of governing to maintain straightforwardness and openness in all things; so that everyone in his household knows that there is no remedy for a fault once committed except confession. He himself, or his wife, takes note of sermons and how everyone benefits from them, comparing this year to last; and in addition to the family's common prayers, he strictly requires everyone to pray alone before they go to sleep at night and before they leave in the morning, and he knows what prayers they say, and until they have learned them he makes them kneel beside him—judging that this private prayer is a more voluntary act on their part than when they are called to join in others' prayers, and that it is what they carry with them when they leave the family. He keeps his servants between love and fear, depending on what he finds in them; but generally he divides it this way: to his children he shows more love than terror, to his servants more terror than love; but an old servant is ranked with a child.10 The furniture in his house is very plain, but clean, intact, and sweet-smelling—as sweet as his garden can make it; for he has no money for such things, charity being his only perfume, which deserves the expense when he can afford it. His food is simple and ordinary, but wholesome; what he has is little, but very good. It consists mostly of mutton, beef, and veal; if he adds anything for a feast day or a guest, his garden or orchard supplies it, or his barn and yard. He doesn't go any further for any entertainment, lest he go out into the world, considering it absurd that he who teaches others temperance should himself live beyond it.11

Thrift and Providence

The parson uses home produce and admires God's providence in providing creatures to turn waste into food.

But he doesn't refuse what his home produces, since it comes cheap and easy, and arises from making good use of things that would otherwise be wasted. In this he admires and imitates the wonderful providence and thrift of the great householder of the world: for there are two sorts of things that, as they are, are useless to man—the one for smallness, as crumbs, and scattered grain, and the like; the other for foulness, as kitchen swill, and dirt, and things that have fallen into them; God has provided creatures for both: for the first,12 poultry; for the second, swine. These save a man the labor, and by doing what he either could not do, or was not fit for him to do, take both sorts of food into themselves and, as it were, dress and prepare both for man in their own bodies, by growing themselves fit for his table.

Fasting with Wisdom

The parson observes fasting days with triple obligation, but adapts them for health, recognizing that meat may be less obstructing for English and student bodies.

The Parson in his house observes fasting days; and in particular, as Sunday is his day of joy, so Friday is his day of humiliation, which he keeps not only by abstinence in diet, but also from company, recreation, and all outward comforts; and besides, with confession of sins, and all acts of mortification.13 Now fasting days carry a triple obligation: first, of eating less that day than on other days; second, of eating nothing pleasant or over-nourishing, as the Israelites ate bitter herbs; third, of eating no flesh, which is only the second rule fixed by authority to this particular case.14 The first two obligations are much more essential to a true fast than the third and last; and fasting days would have been fully kept by observing the first two, had not authority stepped in: so that to eat little, and that of what is unpleasant, is the natural rule of fasting, even if it is flesh. For since fasting in the language of Scripture is an afflicting of our souls, if a piece of dry flesh at my table is more unpleasant to me than some fish there, then certainly to eat the flesh, and not the fish, is to keep the fasting day in the natural way. And it's worth noticing that the ban on meat came from hot countries, where meat alone—and still more when taken with wine—tends to nourish more than it does in cold regions, and where meat can be more easily done without, and more safely than elsewhere: places where both the people and their drink are cold and phlegmatic, so that eating meat is an antidote to both. For it's certain that a weak stomach already filled with meat will tolerate and bear a draft of beer far better than if it had taken fish, roots, or the like beforehand—which will show itself in spitting and in mucus or phlegm.15 To conclude: if the Parson is in full health, he keeps all three obligations, eating fish or roots—little in quantity, and unappealing in quality. If his body is weak and obstructed, as most students' bodies are, he cannot keep the last obligation, nor allow others in his house who are in that condition to keep it either—but only the first two, which also must be broken in wasting diseases of depletion (such as consumption). For meat was made for man, not man for meat.1617 To all this may be added—not to embolden the unruly, but for the comfort of the weak—that not only sickness breaks these fasting obligations, but a sickly constitution as well.18 For it's as unnatural to do anything that leads me into an illness I'm prone to as it is not to get out of that illness, once I'm in it, by any diet. One thing is clear: an English body and a student's body are two great obstructed vessels, and among things that are food and not medicine, nothing obstructs less than meat taken in moderation—though taken to excess, it is extremely obstructive.19 And obstructions are the cause of most diseases.

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THe Parson is very exact in the governing of his house, making it a copy and modell for his Parish. He knows the temper, and pulse of every person in his house, and accordingly either meets with their vices, or advanceth theirvertues. His wife is either religious, or night and day he is winning her to it. In stead of the qualities of the world, he requires onely three of her; first, a trayning up of her children and mayds in the fear of God, with prayers, and catechizing, and all religious duties. Secondly, a curing, and healing of all wounds and sores with her owne hands; which skill either she brought with her, or he takes care she shall learn it of some religious neighbour. Thirdly, a providing for her family in such sort, as that neither they want a competent sustentation, nor her husband be brought in debt. His children he first makes Christians, and then Commonwealths-men; the one he owes to his heavenly Countrey, the other to his earthly, having no title to either, except he do good to both. Therefore having seasoned them with all Piety, not only of words in praying, and reading; but in actions, in visiting other sick children, and tending their wounds, and sending his charity by them to the poor, and somtimes giving them a little mony to do it of themselves, that they get a delight in it, and enter favour with God, who weighs even childrens actions, I King.

14. 12, 13. He afterwards turnes his care to fit all their dispositions with some calling, not sparing the eldest, but giving him the prerogative of his Fathers profession, which happily for his other children he is not able to do. Yet in binding them prentices (in case he think fit to do so) he takes care not to put them into vain trades, and unbefitting the reverence of their Fathers calling, such as are tavernes for men, and lace-making for women; because those trades, for the most part, serve but the vices and vanities of the world, which he is to deny, and not augment. However, he resolves with himself never to omit any present good deed of charity, in consideration of providing a stock for his children; but assures himselfe, that mony thus lent to God, is placed surer for his childrens advantage, then if it were given to the Chamber of London. Good deeds, and good breeding, are his two great stocks for his children; if God give any thing above those, and not spent in them, he blesseth God, and lays it out as he sees cause. His servants are all religious, and were it not his duty to have them so, it were his profit, for none are so well served, as by religious servants, both because they do best, and because what they do, is blessed, and prospers. After religion, he teacheth them, that three things make a compleate servant, Truth, and Diligence, and Neatnesse, or Cleanlinesse.

Those that can read, are allowed times for it, and those that cannot, are taught; for all in his house are either teachers or learners, or both, so that his family is a Schoole of Religion, and they all account, that to teach the ignorant is the greatest almes. Even the wals are not idle, but something is written, or painted there, which may excite the reader to a thought of piety; especially the IoI Psalm, which is expressed in a fayre table, as being the rule of a family. And when they go abroad, his wife among her neighbours is the beginner of good discourses, his children among children, his servants among other servants; so that as in the house of those that are skill'd in Musick, all are Musicians; so in the house of a Preacher, all are preachers. He suffers not a ly or equivocation by any means in his house, but counts it the art, and secret of governing to preserve a directnesse, and open plainnesse in all things; so that all his house knowes, that there is no help for a fault done, but confession. He himselfe, or his Wife, takes account of Sermons, and how every one profits, comparing this yeer with the last: and besides the common prayers of the family, he straitly requires of all to pray by themselves before they sleep at night, and stir out in the morning, and knows what prayers they say, and till they have learned them, makes them kneel by him; esteeming that this private praying is a more voluntary act in them, then when they are called to others prayers, and that, which when they leave the family, they carry with them. He keeps his servants between love, fear, according as hee findes them; but generally he distributes it thus, To his Children he shewes more love then terrour, to his servants more terrour then love; but an old servant boards a child. The furniture of his house is very plain, but clean, whole, and sweet, as sweet as his garden can make; for he hath no mony for such things, charity being his only perfume, which deserves cost when he can spare it. His fare is plain, and common, but wholsome, what hee hath, is little, but very good; it consisteth most of mutton, beefe, and veal, if he addes any thing for a great day, or a stranger, his garden or orchard supplies it, or his barne, and back-side: he goes no further for any entertainment, lest he goe into the world, esteeming it absurd, that he should exceed, who teacheth others temperance.

But those which his home produceth, he refuseth not, as coming cheap, and easie, and arising from the improvement of things, which otherwise would be lost. Wherein he admires and imitates the wonderfull providence and thrift of the great householder of the world: for there being two things, which as they are, are unuseful to man, the one for smalnesse, as crums, and scattered corn, and the like; the other for the foulnesse, as wash, and durt, and things thereinto fallen; God hath provided Creatures for both: for the first. Poultry; for the second, swine. These save man the labour, and doing that which either he could not do, or was not fit for him to do, by taking both sorts of food into them, do as it were dresse and prepare both for man in themselves, by growing them selves fit for his table. The Parson in his house oserves fasting dayes; and particularly, as Sunday is his day of joy, so Friday his day of Humiliation, which he celebrates only with abstinence of diet, but also of company, recreation, and all outward contentments; and besides, with confession of sins, and all acts of Mortification. Now fasting dayes containe a treble obligation; first, of eating lesse that day, then on other dayes; secondly, of eating no pleasing, or over-nourishing things, as the Israelites did eate sowre herbs: Thirdly, of eating no flesh, which is but the determination of the second rule by Authority to this particular. The two former obligations are much more essentiall to a true fast, then the third and last; and fasting dayes were fully performed by keeping of the two former, had not Authority interposed: so that to eat little, and that unpleasant, is the naturall rule of fasting, although it be flesh. For since fasting in Scripture language is an afflicting of our souls, if a peece of dry flesh at my table be more unpleasant to me, then some fish there, certainly to eat the flesh, and not the fish, is to keep the fasting day naturally.

And it is observable, that the prohibiting of flesh came from hot Countreys, where both flesh alone, and much more with wine, is apt to nourish more then in cold regions, and where flesh may be much better spared, and with more safety then elsewhere, where both the people and the drink being cold and flegmatick, the eating of flesh is an antidote to both. For it is certaine, that a weak stomack being prepossessed with flesh, shall much better brooke and bear a draught of beer, then if it had taken before either fish, or rootes, or such things; which will discover it selfe by spitting, and rheume, or flegme. To conclude, the Parson, if he be in full health, keeps the three obligations, eating fish, or roots, and that for quantity little, for quality unpleasant. If his body be weak and obstructed, as most Students are, he cannot keep the last obligation, nor suffer others in his house that are so, to keep it; but only the two former, which also in diseases of exinanition (as consumptions) must be broken: For meat was made for man, not man for meat. To all this may be added, not for emboldening the unruly, but for the comfort of the weak, that not onely sicknesse breaks these obligations of fasting, but sicklinesse also. For it is as unnatural to do any thing, that leads me to a sicknesse, to which I am inclined, as not to get out of that sicknesse, when I am in it, by any diet. One thing is evident, that an English body, and a Students body, are two great obstructed vessels, and there is nothing that is food, and not phisick, which doth lesse obstruct, then flesh moderately taken; as being immoderately taken, it is exceeding obstructive. And obstructions are the cause of most diseases.

Scripture echoes

  1. ↩1Kgs.14.12-1Kgs.14.13 — As for you, rise and go to your house. When your feet enter the city, the child will die. 1Kgs.14.13 — All Israel shall mourn for him and bury him, for this one alone of Jeroboam shall come to the grave, because there has been found in him something good toward Yahweh, the God of Israel, in the house of Jeroboam.
  2. ↩1Kgs.14.12-1Kgs.14.13 — As for you, rise and go to your house. When your feet enter the city, the child will die. 1Kgs.14.13 — All Israel shall mourn for him and bury him, for this one alone of Jeroboam shall come to the grave, because there has been found in him something good toward Yahweh, the God of Israel, in the house of Jeroboam.
  3. ↩Prov.19.17 — Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the LORD, and He will repay them for their deed.

Notes

  1. 1 ↩Source surface 'theirvertues' is a joined form of 'their virtues'; rendered as 'their virtues'.
  2. 2 ↩'competent sustentation' rendered as 'competent living': adequate support or livelihood, not mere subsistence.
  3. 3 ↩'Commonwealths-men' rendered as 'men of the commonwealth': public-spirited citizens formed for the good of the earthly state, after first being formed as Christians.
  4. 4 ↩Source ends with the truncated citation 'I King.'; the next section supplies '14.' and '12, 13.', i.e. 1 Kings 14:12–13. Rendered here as '(1 Kings)' pending later scripture resolution.
  5. 5 ↩Early Modern 'happily' here means 'fortunately / by good fortune,' not cheerful emotion.
  6. 6 ↩'Chamber of London' was the City chamber used as a trusted public deposit for orphans' and children's portions; Herbert treats alms 'lent to God' as a surer investment than that civic fund.
  7. 7 ↩'Stocks' = capital or provision laid up; 'good breeding' = sound upbringing and formation, not lineage alone.
  8. 8 ↩'Religious' here means devout / godly in practice, not members of a religious order.
  9. 9 ↩Source spelling "IoI Psalm" is read as Psalm 101 (Roman CI / Arabic 101), the household-rule psalm; sense is certain though the numeral form is odd.
  10. 10 ↩"an old servant boards a child" is taken as household ranking: a long-trusted servant is treated on a child's footing (more love than terror), not as literal boarding alone.
  11. 11 ↩"back-side" is the farmyard/outbuildings at the back of the house, not the modern vulgar sense.
  12. 12 ↩"wash" is kitchen swill/slops (hog-wash), not laundry water; rendered "kitchen swill".
  13. 13 ↩Source reads "celebrates only with abstinence of diet, but also..." The "but also" construction almost certainly implies the standard "not only...but also"; rendered that way.
  14. 14 ↩"sowre herbs" rendered "bitter herbs" (Passover sense); Early Modern "sour" often covers bitter/acid herbs.
  15. 15 ↩"brooke and bear" rendered as "tolerate and bear"; "prepossessed with flesh" as already occupied/filled with meat.
  16. 16 ↩"exinanition" kept as wasting/depletion; "consumptions" as consumption (period name for wasting disease).
  17. 17 ↩Closing clause deliberately echoes the Sabbath saying (meat for man, not man for meat).
  18. 18 ↩"sicklinesse" rendered as "a sickly constitution" (chronic frailty, not acute illness alone).
  19. 19 ↩"phisick" rendered as "medicine"; "doth lesse obstruct" as "obstructs less," preserving the humoral sense of blockage.

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